True Love Unveiled

What is true love anyway? Until we get married or choose to commit to a long term or life time relationship, true love exists in the realm of imagination. Whether the imagination is our own, or accumulated from the talented minds of the television, movie, and/or book industry, the idea of true love floats through our emotions and thoughts in the safe place of our subjective universe. We decide our fantasies, and our preferences are always met. We always get what the romantic side of our collective self wants in our true love imaginings. We are always appreciated, we are always held when we want to be, we go on the perfect dates, we are told we are beautiful, strong, wanted, and/or needed. When we date in the world outside of our imagination, our imagination becomes our veil we throw onto our new love interests true selves. We are then shocked by how perfect they then seem "at first" as we gush to our friends how wonderful our veil is, I mean how wonderful THEY are...little do we know, our veils make them seem so perfect. After a few dates, their true forms melt parts of our veils and we find they either really do fit some of our imaginings, or they do not and we decide to keep going on the romantic road together, or to go our separate ways. When we get married, or decide to commit to each other without marriage labels, our poor romantic imagination veils are unraveled. Our veils just cannot exist outside of our heads for long. So here we are, two people committed to each other, veils gone, and BOOM we exist in our entirety: passions, fears, desires, dreams, concerns, etc. We have each separately accumulated potentially different coping skills (or not), hobbies, likes, dislikes, depending on where our roads took us before our roads crossed. We stand before each other completely and utterly naked: mind, body, and soul. In this way, we sometimes wait for the one who's supposed to love us most in the world to judge us. Sometimes, we wait in eager expectation to hear those sweet words, "I love you no matter what." Sometimes, the most rare I think, loving our own emotional, physical, and spiritual selves enough to look at our equally naked lover in his or her eyes and simply exist together, one day at a time, constantly embracing the reality of the power of unconditional love shared.